«What should I do? »

The two children played happy and cheerfully and suddenly the little boy cries out loudly. His playmate bitten him. Thick tears roll over his face and he is looking for comfort with his mom. The other boy, on the other hand, does not understand what he has done and it is not uncommon for parents of affected children to be helpless in such a situation. It is therefore helpful to deal with this topic a little more intensely. Especially when it has a look that it was not an oversight or a slip. So what to do when parents find: my child bites me or others!

The bite phase

The fact that a child bites is nothing unusual. It is an expression of anger, disappointment or frustration. While other toddlers tend to pinch, pinch or hit, others in turn get air in which they use their teeth.

Bite in small children is associated with different emotions

The so -called bite phase usually occurs between the first and third year of life. At a time when a child consciously perceives his environment and begins to see himself as part of this big world. It wants to communicate. But often children at this age do not speak at all or just inadequate to express everything that actually moves and concerns them.

In practice

• A simple example shows how other these situations come about:

The little ones just play wonderfully and the little boy is convinced that the little toy car belongs to him in his hands. But the next moment he takes away his playmate surprisingly and the little boy cannot say with words that he doesn't like it. The child bites.

Small children play together, in the event of a dispute is often bitten

• Another situation illustrates the causes that leads to a child:

"In the shop, the little girl absolutely wants to have the sweet pearl necklace. The mother denies her this wish. Suddenly the daughter simply bites her hand."

Aggression or disappointment is also bitten against parents

In both situations, the child is overwhelmed to express feelings with words. It is a kind of helplessness that is unfortunately evident in this form. Small children first have to learn that disappointments belong and that limits have to be added.

As parents, you are asked to deal with it as calmly but as possible. The following tips should help you find a few ways out of these situations:

1. When the offspring hurts other children

Of course, her little sunshine grows up in a protected and loving environment and, above all, non -violent. It is all the worse to see when the little one is injured.

A typical argument between small children: Who is allowed to go to the swing first?

First take on the affected boy or girl. Donate comfort briefly and then devote yourself to your offspring. Give it clearly to understand that it is not good if it bites and that you shouldn't hurt anyone. Show how sad the other boy or the girl is now. Talk quietly, but strict.

2. When the little ones bite them when they carry them on their arms

It often hits mom or dad unexpectedly. Especially when a baby bites. This usually occurs surprisingly and many parents react out of pure reflex. Set off the baby carefully and like to say "Aua". It understands that it has done something that causes them pain.

3. When the attacks occur constantly

Sometimes toddlers try to attract attention about these attacks or simply to enforce their will. So never allow your little princess to achieve something with it. Whether in a negative form or in a positive form. As soon as small children notice that they can achieve something about it, it is used manipulatively. Stay consistent and show concern or punish them with short -term ignorance.

Excavating is not always the best tactic, sometimes you put more emphasis with ignoring the little ones

Language as a key to communication

Many parents have the experience that when a larger vocabulary is reached, this misconduct disappears quickly. About the learned language is now possible for children to communicate and articulate themselves much better. Even if the vocabulary is far from complete. Nevertheless, it is now much easier to react appropriately in more difficult situations.

The support in learning the language is therefore incredibly important. Put a lot of attention and clearly show how good it is when the first words are really spoken.

Violence creates counter violence - a lot of rest and patience are required

Even if it is difficult in one or the other situation. If possible, keep the calm and swallow the displeasure. If you get loud or even slip your hand, you ultimately only achieve the opposite.

The motto are calm and patience! Screaming and scolding only creates counter -violence in the long run

It has always been known that violence creates counter -violence. It is not always about physical violence. Shouting or even roaring also conveys a kind of violence that have negative experiences for the little ones. At this point, keep in mind that there is positive attention and negative attention. In other words, children succeed in drawing their parents' attention through naughty behavior and thus wanting to assert their will in a way.

My child bites me! Quick help in dangerous moments:

• Take your offspring aside and thus defuse the direct confrontation.
• If necessary, take care of a short, spatial separation.
• Show clearly that you are injured or someone else's pain.
• Say it is not good.

With small rewards to great goals

The so -called bite phase often goes hand in hand with the dreaded defiance phase. The transition from the baby to the toddler is another challenge for parents if an angel becomes an angel or a sunshine a small thunderstorm.

   

It is always important that positive behavior and, above all, improvements are rewarded. We are not talking about exuberant gifts or great excursions. Rather, it is about giving recognition.

A pretty idea is a little suitcase. Such a small children's case can now be with small gifts or Self -made be filled. In this way, they show children a positive reaction to their improved behavior.

Together, tinker a pretty chain of pearls or a small bracelet. The calm and the time spent together are a great reward. Gradually fill the little suitcase with little treasures.

   

 

This is not quite fully implemented with a baby. If there are still problems with the bite here, then take a special one Bite ring at hand. A baby usually bites in time when new teeth break through. This is a little different than with a toddler. Because a baby doesn't really try to enforce his head in this sense.

When is a doctor to consult?

If you feel overwhelmed or the phase seems to be overwhelmed, please contact a pediatrician. You are not alone with the problem. A doctor is able to find out whether there are other reasons for behavior and how they can be helped.